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I was 21 when I got married. My husband was 24. We got married after dating for about two and a half years. We eloped in a beautiful inn in southern Vermont during fall foliage. It was wonderful- simple and all about what we wanted to do in the moment.
I know that marrying young isn’t for everybody and if it’s not for you, that’s ok!
But there are perks to getting married young that I think get so overlooked in our society.
Our relationship started when we were 18 and 22. Technically adults, but not living in the adult world yet. We spent the first year thousands of miles away from each other, so we had plenty of time talking and getting to know each other. We shared our dreams of the future. Our hopes for a family. And they all matched up.
About 5 months after I moved across the country to be with him, he had a medical emergency.
He had been feeling some pain in his head and his eye was red, so while I was at work he decided to go get checked out by an eye doctor. Immediately he was sent to the ER- the doctor even paid for a cab to get him there.
I rushed to the hospital absolutely shaken. He was sent into surgery late that night for a perforation on his cornea. To this day we still don’t know how this happened.
I was in his hospital room at 2AM crying softly from the chair in the corner terrified.
He had to quit his job, he couldn’t get around on his own, and he had so many doctors appointments. I took right to the task of holding everything together. Looking for financial help for our situation, making sure he was taken care of, taking off time to escort him to see the doctors.
A year later we were married.
All of our most important moments in our adult lives have involved each other. We get to build our future completely together with no mess and that’s the way I like it.
You’re Missing Out on the Fun
We get a lot of comments about getting married so young and missing out on enjoying life before settling down.
That’s just the thing though. We’re not settled.
We’re building our future while enjoying our childless youth.
We have a lot of fun. I just have a guarantee to always have a buddy to have all of my fun with.
I have someone who will travel with me, do movie dates, try new restaurants, go to concerts. None of which I would do alone. So really I’m doing more married than I would be doing single.
He’s really my favorite person to spend time with and he’s willing to do or go wherever will make me happy.
30 isn’t a magical number. You’re not going to party all through your 20s and finally become an adult. You choose to be an adult. I didn’t see any point in wasting my 20s to avoid being taboo.
I’ve always been mature for my age. I never saw the point in partying,I have always been much more content staying home and reading a book or learning a new skill.
The secret that our generation needs to learn about love is that it’s not a feeling, it’s a choice.
I choose to love him everyday. When I don’t like him, when we’re having our issues, my commitment stands. He feels the same way.
You don’t know what a couple has been through together or what their commitment level is to each other.
When we’re told we’re too young we roll our eyes and keep enjoying this life we’re building together.